Before my body would except the new B Complex 50 supplement and two tablespoons of olive oil a day, my hands were cracked, burning, and bleeding. Not a fun combination to have when washing dishes or taking a shower.
But I am healing.
Little by little, I am finding peace and happiness, with that, my body is responding by allowing me to try new ideas, supplements, and healing modalities.
I don't want you to misunderstand, I am really not into forgiveness. Pretty much, it's three strikes and you are out! That means of my life too. Strikes aren't (literally) stepping on my toes by accident or anything mundane. Nothing so childish. The strikes are lying, cheating, stealing, and being disrespectful in a major way that would make prostitutes blush.
But we all have to have our lines, or we cannot live healthy emotional lives.
There's a metaphor story I heard once that I would like to share in paraphrase form: Two Buddhist monks were walking by the river trying to get to another temple and a woman needed help. One of the monks took the time to go get the woman from the river and carry her safely to land. After walking and walking to reach their destination, the other monk complained that the monk who helped the woman across the river did so against their vows/rules. The monk replied that he may have carried the woman to shore but the other monk had been carrying her ever since.
So dislike, even hate someone and never forgive them all you like as long as you aren't carrying them. Their sins should never be your sins. You should not ever have to make up for or bear any responsibility for other people's bad decisions or issues.
I know it's against convention, but I think we spend far too much time beating ourselves up for not being able to let go when we really don't have to as long as it does not interfere with the happiness of our lives.
Then we can go about our business healing, in my case healing my hands. I'll never know who in the future I will have to heal with them, but I know I cannot do any healing as long as I keep ripping open my wounds to try and forgive people who really don't deserve my time or energy.
... and you thought I was this nice person. Well, I am. I just don't have to pretend I am someone I am not and do things that are against my nature. So I can be happy with myself and heal without guilt.
Benefit from working on yourself, not wasting your energy on emotional baggage that can be dumped out by the curb. Let the universe handle it. That's what karma is for.
Have a great and wonderful day!!!